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Don’t Let Your Email Get the Best of You

By Diana Marinova 12 Comments

Email Handling - Don't Lose Control over Your EmailRecently I came back from a long trip abroad and I realized I have hundreds of starred emails to attend to. Those were readers’ questions, inquiries from prospective clients, comments on my blog or group discussions I take part in, and so on.

See, when I get an email, I usually check it out and do one of three things:

  • Delete it – if it’s spam, a newsletter which doesn’t take more than two minutes to read through, a notification of some kind, etc.
  • Reply to it – if it takes two or less minutes to handle, I always reply instantly so that I don’t forget later.
  • Star it to attend to it at a later stage when time permits – as you might imagine, I star most of my emails  because they always require more than two minutes to handle.

It takes time to look through a prospect’s website and send them a proposal based on their initial email.

It usually takes more than two minutes to look into that reader’s specific situation and problem, think about the best course of action, and explain to them in details why I think that is in fact the best course of action.

The same is valid when I am replying to a comment on my blog, or adding value to a LinkedIn discussion through a comment, for example. It takes more than two minutes to get acquainted with the situation, read whatever I have been emailed and then reply with a useful thought of my own.

All of these emails get starred.

I have always suspected it but now I am dead sure that starring my emails to attend to them later is a very wrong approach.

If you are starring your emails to attend to them later, you are setting up yourself for failure. Here’s why.

If you have been handling your email in the above described method for let’s say a week, then the worst case scenario would be to spend a couple of hours over the weekend to catch up with all of your starred emails.

Now imagine if you’ve been on a trip for two months and you have about 200 starred emails, waiting for your attention. True story – read on!

Because I chose to focus on having fun while traveling and getting to know new cultures, my blog as well as my email took a backseat. Just the other day I had to spend 8 hours sifting through email, answering readers’ questions, replying to comments and apologizing to prospective clients about the delay of my replies.

If you are thinking – “OK, eight hours, that ain’t so bad. If eight hours is the price I have to pay for a two-month-almost-email-free period, it won’t bother me much. I’ll spend those eight hours cleaning up my email inbox.”

Fair enough.

But let me tell you the implications on your freelance reputation when you let your email inbox get the best of you.

I had customer inquiries dated as early as May 5 which were starred but never attended to. How professional is that?!

I may be a very good marketer, I may be very professional, I may not miss deadlines once I take on a project, but go explain that to the guy who sent me an inquiry in May and I failed to reply before August!

Losing control over your email inbox can affect you in all kinds of different ways. You may miss a great opportunity to work with a suitable client. You may miss an interesting article or discussion which would have provided you a solution for a problem you’ve been struggling with for ages; if only you had read that article or discussion from start to end earlier. You may even ruin a good relationship and make people question your integrity and professionalism if you are unresponsive for a long time and without prior notice.

Not to mention the stress that email build-up may cause you – you are constantly thinking about that pile of email you have to address but for some reason don’t have time to. As a result, your work-life balance suffers and your productivity falls because you worry.

Having said this, I strongly urge you to find a system of your own which would help you regain and retain control over your email inbox, regardless your circumstances.

Whether you are home doing nothing, traveling and conquering the world with limited internet access, or just working at your home-office and chilling like any other ordinary day– this system of email control should work impeccably. Because, let’s face it – it’s easier to spend 10 minutes here and there to clean up your email, rather than set aside eight hours to catch up with emails which should have been addressed a long time ago in the first place.

Here’s what I think will work for me in my quest to take back control of my email.

Three easy rules to follow:

  • block time on my calendar for email handling
  • don’t open emails outside those time slots
  • act on every opened email – reply, archive, delete, forward to somebody else to address it, but do NOT leave it for later by putting a star on it. If I do, I’ll end up with tens, maybe even hundreds of starred emails which I have to address later and I never will because, who am I kidding – I don’t have another eight hours to spend on email alone, right?

A special note which is worth making – if there is a customer inquiry which you need time to address and the allocated time slot for email handling wouldn’t be enough, then reply to that prospect, confirming you received their inquiry and inform them when you will be sending your proposal. Then go ahead and block some time on your calendar to handling that specific email when you have an opening in your schedule. This way you reply in a timely manner to the original inquiry and you make sure you set aside the time needed to reply with your detailed proposal.

Do share any other tips you have for successful email handling 😀

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Comments

  1. Susan Cooper/findingourwaynow.com says

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    Hi Diana,
    Those are some good ideas for taming those beastly email inboxes. I know how overwhelming it can be when you start to lose control of it. Feels like you’ll never dig your way out. I like your suggestions for managing the problem.

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    • Diana Marinova says

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      Thanks for the encouragement, Susan – so fat my system works. Let’s see if I can stick to it in the long run. I’ll put it to the real test when I hit the road next week, I guess 😀
      ~Diana

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  2. Jeri Walker (@JeriWB) says

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    I tried starring e-mails for a while, but then found I never got to them in a timely enough manner. I’ve settled on much what you’ve described. I aim to check e-mail only twice per days within a certain frame of time, and if an individualized response will require more time, I schedule that response into my calendar.

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    • Diana Marinova says

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      ha! You are way ahead of me on this one, Jeri – I am glad it worked out for you. This means it most probably will work out for me too 😉 So far it does, time will tell …
      ~Diana

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  3. jacquiegum says

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    Allowing specific times for email have worked for me too. This is becoming a huge problem for anyone who spends any time on the internet. I too am beginning to find it a great burden!

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    • Diana Marinova says

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      Yes, I have always allocated time for email but it was as general as that. And with email piling up, I kept on using that time slot for addressing the quick ones and starring everything else. What has made a really big difference so far is allocating time slots to reply to a specific email, especially for readers’ emails and prospects’ inquires. I am optimistic 😀
      ~Diana

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  4. Sofi V Dagnon (@IniquitousInk) says

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    I’ve not tried setting specific time yet- that’s a good one! I find having different folders helps me a lot- I move any non-urgent emails to their specific folders to handle at the end of the day (or week!) and only keep emails that need to be actioned promptly in my inbox (I usually deal with those over coffee first thing in the morning). For some reason ti just feels like less work that way 🙂

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    • Diana Marinova says

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      Hi, Sofi – I too have folders but I use them for organizing my emails. If it isn’t in my inbox to see it, it will NOT get addressed. 😀

      Starring emails used to work for me the same way as folders work for you, I suppose. I just get a lot more email the last few months and started losing control – starring stopped working 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by!
      ~Diana

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  5. xerxeska says

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    Have you ever wondered if a mail sent by you has been read by the recipient? To know for sure install Bananatag. But I guess you know that already.

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    • Diana Marinova says

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      I never wonder that, Xerxes – usually, for important emails, I ask the person to confirm the receipt of the email and they do 😀

      I used to use Yesware for a while, then Sidekick by HubtSpot, then I stopped because such tools generated too much noise in my mailbox. Recently I decided to give another try the HubSpot’s tool but will see if I will continue or drop it for the same reason.

      But even if I use email tracking tool like this, I will still ask people to confirm the receipt of the email because I can get notified for someone opening an email, but this does not necessarily mean they actually read it.

      Thanks for the recommendation of Bananatag – I’ll be sure to check it out 😀
      ~Diana

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  6. Jeannette Paladino says

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    Diana — you’ve addressed a problem we all face. In the last couple of months I’ve started to unsubscribe from a number of newsletters and blogs that I never got to read. Most of the time I just deleted them so why not stop getting them altogether?
    The accepted wisdom is to set aside an allotted period of time every day to read emails. I’ve found it works better for me to check email frequently and read the ones I need to read and delete the rest. Otherwise, the firehose of emails will just pile up and be overwhelming.

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    • Diana Marinova says

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      Awesome tip, Jeannette – about unsubscribing from the newsletters you never read. I do that from time to time, too! You bring a very good point by sharing what the accepted wisdom is and what you have found to work best for you – one should not follow blindly what others say; it’s important to experiment and adopt the practice which you find most suitable for your own schedule and habits. Thanks for stopping by 😀
      ~Diana

      Reply

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